You recently broke up with your ex or you recently got dumped. Either way you miss your ex greatly and desperately want them back in your life BUT they are not responding to your calls, email or texts. Here is the question that is probably running through your mind:
“How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text, emails or IM?”
Wouldn't it be nice if you could wave a magic wand and get your ex to return your phone calls instead of totally ignoring you?
Here is the overall strategic plan you have been looking for that could save your relationship:
Word Of Advice
If you don't have a PLAN in place BEFORE you try this strategy you WILL FAIL and you can kiss your ex good bye FOREVER. You have to know WHAT to say and HOW to say it when your ex does return your call.
What NOT to Say:
So which words do work? Before we get to that, lets look at what words NEVER work, which ones cause more harm, or could put you in a worse position than before the call.
Do either of these approaches sound familiar?
1. The PLEAD -
The message you leave sounds like, “John, please, please call me. This is the 5th time I have called. I desperately NEED to talk to you.”
2. The EMERGENCY -
“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please phone me as soon as you get this.”
Have you been trying either or both of these approaches to no avail? Guess what? They will NEVER WORK!
You come across as desperate and clingy and you WILL push your ex further away!
Ok now on to the SECRET.
Two of the most potent forces in the human psyche are:
Curiosity & Self Interest
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Once you unite the two, you have a formula that WILL work ‘magic’.
This trick works virtually EVERY TIME.
In a warm friendly voice say:
“Hi Paul. It’s Jen. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Phone me as I would like to thank you personally.”
Can you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! He will be wondering over and over “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?”
And he feels good because it is a positive message. He WILL call.
Prior to your call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is working out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be almost anything…but needs to be credible.
But more significantly…
2nd Word of Advice!
Have a PLAN. Yes I said it before but it is that important. Don't make the call until you do. You need to figure out WHY you broke up. You might need to do some work on yourself.
If you use this method without any basic strategy and your ex does call you back, you can do more DAMAGE than good if you are not prepared.
Let me put it this way.
What you do BEFORE, DURING and AFTER you get them to return your call is MORE critical than getting him/her to return your call.
Does that make sense?
This tip is only a PART of an OVERALL PLAN.
Get the full STEP BY STEP strategy here.